The kinda-sorta-weekly blog written by The Pleasure Centre creator, Aleks.
In these blogs Aleks covers important topics ranging from sexuality and sexual function, relationships and body image to feminist theory and mental health. 🧠 💕 🏳️⚧️ 🏳️🌈
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How To Disclose your STI status.
Disclosing your STI status can feel intimidating. So here are some tips on how to have the conversation.
Abusive Relationships
In Australia, intimate partner violence is considered a national health crisis. Let’s talk about abusive relationships.
SEXUAL PAIN
Sex is not supposed to be painful, no matter what kind of genitals you have.
We’re going to look at what causes sexual pain, what Vaginismus is, and how to manage it. Please note that the suggestions made in this article should not replace professional support.
Why BDSM practice is better than mainstream sex.
This blog is based on a research paper I wrote in my sexology post grad. In this blog adaption, I’m going to introduce you to the subculture of BDSM, and why its features actually make for safer sexual culture than mainstream sex.
Fight Right
Every relationship has a perpetual problem. There is no such thing as a relationship without conflict. So one of the most sustainable things you can do to ensure the longevity of a relationship, is to learn how to fight right. Or at least better.
Overvaluing Appearance
A fixation on appearance makes people vulnerable to overvaluing their appearance, and this may disrupt a person’s ability to live according to other values they might have.
11 Relationships Facts
Stan Tatkin is an author, clinician, and research at The University of California. He is also the found of the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT).
In his book, ‘Your Brain on Love’, we shares 11 fact on relationships based on his extensive research and experience.
Body Dysmorphia
It is important to recognise that body dysmorphia is not simple vanity or dissatisfaction with appearance. It is a distressing condition which is often associated with depression, social anxiety and feelings of shame.
The House Plant Analogy
Much like a plant, neural pathways never fully disappear once established. So if you are to water the weed again, it will revive. For example, if you’re under extreme stress, or a particularly hard trigger arises, you may resort back to the default coping because it’s still a well established behaviour…
The four predictors of relationship failure, and their antidotes.
Through the decades of research conducted on couples, they identified four negative communication habits that lead to relationship breakdown and failure, and called them the four horsemen of the apocalypse.
How body image impacts your sex life…
The influence of body image ideals, leads to body image insecurities. We naturally compare our bodies to the 1% of bodies that seem to fit the ideals. And this can impact our ability to relax into pleasure.
4 Practical Ways to Regulate Big Emotions
In today’s world, there are stressors everywhere. We open our phones to distressing news. We walk outside and there are images and text all grabbing at our attention.
Not to mention people, they exist, and they can be very annoying.
Queering Sex
Heteronormativity is when heterosexuality is considered the ‘norm’. And because of this, we are raised with an increased exposure to heterosexual relationships, which further perpetuates our belief that it is the norm.
But the kind of heterosexual relationships and sex we have been exposed to is usually limited, and prescriptive.
Book club is a free virtual community that discusses literature on mental health, sex, sexuality and more.
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Need someone to write about the tricky topics? You’re in the right place. The topics that Aleks can contribute informative articles for include:
sexuality, body image (what it is, how to manage concerns, especially during sex!), pleasure, understanding arousal, libido and desire styles, expanding adult sex education, feminist literature pieces and mental health.
To explore samples of writing, check out the blog. If you have questions, contact us here.
Articles are roughly $150 p/500 words.