The Feminist Identity and Sex
In the latest wave of feminism, there comes alongside it a movement of sexual empowerment and independence. It reminds women that their sexual expression, preferences, and exploration are their own. Which is 1 million% the truth.
But how might this also isolate some women? What if you’re are a feminist but you have a low sex drive? What about the women who don’t masturbate?
Building a feminist identity can be tricky, because there are many underlying expectations to conform in certain ways. Being a confident feminist will look different for every woman, and it doesn’t mean being sexually overt, or even sexually successful. Just because you don’t enjoy having one night stands, doesn’t mean you suck at being a sexually empowered goddess. You just don’t like having shit sex with ejaculation-oriented men. I don’t blame you.
The argument: We rarely celebrate the introverted feminists who feel sexually satisfied with dick once a week, even once a month.
Feminism masked as the sexually empowered goddess is a stereotype, and often an unrealistic sexual norm. Not all sexually empowered women masturbate with crystal wands, they might not maz at all. Single women don’t want your pity that they haven’t orgasmed in 3 months, because given the choice, I’m sure you’d rather drink wine on the couch and watch Netflix than chase bad dick.
In a modern society where hardworking women are time poor and rely on dating apps to meet people, sexual success is often obscured by social barriers. A feminist identity should encompass the values you hold close, and shouldn’t be pitted against the next person’s.
To be comfortable within any identity requires a certain acceptance, and healthy analysis. Your personal development should be like a scientific theory, the central philosophy guiding your decisions until a better one comes along.
How you function should be good enough until you learn a better way to do things. Your feminist identity will be an ongoing journey influenced by education, and trial and error experiences.
