Why women prefer to cum in certain ways?

Have you ever wondered why she keeps getting on top to cum?

Firstly, it’s probably because she knows how to get shit done better than you.

Secondly, it all comes down to the pelvic nerve.

As the name alludes, the pelvic nerve exits the base of the spinal cord, and branches off into the pelvis. For men, this branching occurs in a uniform fashion, with clusters gathering in sensitive areas like the penis and balls. For some men, there is also a greater clustering toward the anus, so when this area is stimulated it feels good.

The same thing occurs in women, but in a less straight forward way. No two women will have identical nerve clustering in the same consistent manner as men. For example, if you’ve been with women, you’d be aware that different women require different kinds of stimulation. If you didn’t know this, lucky for you I just made you a better lover by 110%. Get your shit together.

Without getting too scientific, these are the nerves that are responsible for certain kinds of sensations:

• The hypogastric nerve transmitssensation from the uterus and cervix, and from the prostate gland.

• The pelvic nerve transmits from the vagina and cervix, and everyones anus.

• The pudendal nerve transmits from the clitoris, scrotum and penis.

• The vagus nerve transmits sensation from the cervix, uterus and vagina.

One woman may prefer clitoral stimulation, almost exclusively, to reach orgasm. Another may require clit stimulation and vaginal penetration to reach orgasm. Another may favour anal. It really depends on how your nerves have branched throughout your body and clustered in certain areas.

This also relates to my last blog, ‘Does the G-spot exist?‘ which explored how women who orgasm from vaginal penetration alone are in the minority, and most women require multiple forms of stimulation to orgasm. This nerve clustering situation explains why there is a variance in orgasm style and preference.

Nerve clustering in female identifying people can occur in the clitoris, vaginal canal, the cervix (the bit at the end of the vaginal canal), the anus and perineum (gooch). This means, that you potentially have multiple combinations of trigger areas that could be stimulated during sex to achieve an orgasm.

The best way to explore your nerve clustering is to masturbate. Masturbation is fucking dope. Get into it. The other way is to practice with a partner. Ask them to mix it up a little through different oral sex techniques, or alternative sex positions. If you need guidance on these topics email me and I’ll consider writing a blog on it, but generally just engage in these activities without a goal in mind. See it as an opportunity to learn about your body.

The more you familiarise yourself with your sensitive points of pleasure, the more confident you can be in solo and partnered sex. Sex doesn’t need to be about orgasming, but if it’s a component of sexual intimacy, then that’s bloody fantastic.